The week of Valentine’s day, my sister called me and asked if I’d send her a gift.
In response to this request, I asked her why she hadn’t gotten me a gift for Valentine’s day in prior years. She responded like this:
“You were just so happy single, I didn’t think you needed one.”
She’s right. I pride myself on my independent, “don’t need no man” public profile.
I am a confident, strong woman who doesn’t need a holiday to define her.
I spend most Valentine’s Day with girlfriends and to be completely honest with you? I have an awesome time.
This was the first Valentine’s Day in my 25 years of living where I had someone ask me to be my Valentine.
I still managed to blow it.
If you know anything about me, I love going to bed at 10 pm. I adjust my entire life around making sure I get the best sleep possible. This means I don’t spend many weeknights out.
This Valentine’s Day, my partner made reservations at a charming Brooklyn Bridge front restaurant. He knew this was my first Valentine’s Day and wanted it to be special for me. He bought flowers on OpenTable for the table.
That afternoon, I decided to let my partner know I wanted to get to bed early instead of going to dinner. I didn’t think this day was worth celebrating.
I was especially not used to the idea of being celebrated or cherished, especially by a man.
Single or not, you might have an idea of what your life should like and how people should take care of you. Can I suggest you loosen up and allow the idea of love, in whatever shape it is, lead you?
Love comes in the shape of partners, friends, family, but it’s perfect form comes from God. It’s perfect form comes to sweep you off your feet, encourage, and remind you of how special you are.
Prayer: Dear Lord, I pray I don’t become so consumed by what I believe love to look like, that I don’t allow your love to surprise me. I pray that you allow me to appreciate the love that surrounds me, so I can learn about your character.
- Zephaniah 3:17
- Romans 8:37-39